Oh Ruth – I’m so glad you found my suggestions for making red eye gravy  helpful. Just like going home, indeed! As for a substitute for cilantro, I’m not quite sure what to tell you. You’re right that parsley doesn’t really give the same flavor. There are other herbs that might give a similar flavor, but they might also give you a similar reaction, since the plants are in the same family!  But if you can find it, try papalo, a Mexican herb that is similar to cilantro. You could also try celery leaves or dill (both easier to find that papalo), but they don’t have quite the same flavor. You might also try parsley PLUS a touch of ground coriander (which comes from the cilantro plant, so again, you might have a reaction). A mix of parsley and mint might also be good – not exactly like cilantro, but certainly more flavorful than parsley alone. In the end, I think you’ll just have to experiment a bit to find what you like. Good luck!